From counselors at lists.onenet.net  Wed Sep  5 21:08:29 2018
From: counselors at lists.onenet.net (OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor Discussion Board)
Date: Thu, 6 Sep 2018 02:08:29 +0000
Subject: [Counselors] Fighting Addiction through Education
Message-ID: <mailman.1521.1536258180.1625.counselors@lists.onenet.net>



On Monday I was reading the Oklahoman. I came across an article about the drug epidemic in Oklahoma. Sen Lankford was quoted in the article. The article mentioned an organization that had been formed to combat the problem-- FATE--Fighting Addiction Through Education. It was started by a man who had lost his son to drugs. This organization has released a video series--Killing t pain. It has 7 episodes. It can be downloaded at http://www.killingpain.com./. I watched several episodes and think they will be great for any drug classes you need to teach your students. I plan to use them with my high school classes. Be sure to preview each episode before you use it.
Nancy Reed, Counselor; Keyes School



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From counselors at lists.onenet.net  Thu Sep 13 21:25:52 2018
From: counselors at lists.onenet.net (OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor Discussion Board)
Date: Fri, 14 Sep 2018 02:25:52 +0000
Subject: [Counselors] Help for social awareness resources
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Our high school is planning to host multiple forums the month of October to address Social Awareness.  We are searching for videos, age-appropriate curriculum, or ideas that you would recommend on these topics:



Suicide & Depression

Bullying & Cyber-bullying

Sexual Harassment & Sexting

Substance Abuse

Diversity & Inclusion



As always, appreciate the network of outstanding counselors in Oklahoma who continue to support each other.  Thanking you in advance!!




Mary Beth Lykins
Counselor: 10-12, alpha HAN - PA
Booker T. Washington High School
Office: 918.925.1019
FAX: 918.925.1001
lykinma at tulsaschools.org

send attendance notifications to: BTW_attendance at tulsaschools.org
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From counselors at lists.onenet.net  Fri Sep 14 09:04:07 2018
From: counselors at lists.onenet.net (OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor Discussion Board)
Date: Fri, 14 Sep 2018 09:04:07 -0500
Subject: [Counselors] Books
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Can anyone suggest a few good books for Junior High Girls dealing with
bullying??

Thank you for your help,
Jaci Heaton
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From counselors at lists.onenet.net  Fri Sep 14 09:59:06 2018
From: counselors at lists.onenet.net (OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor Discussion Board)
Date: Fri, 14 Sep 2018 09:59:06 -0500
Subject: [Counselors] Help for social awareness resources
In-Reply-To: <mailman.514.1536930803.1699.counselors@lists.onenet.net>
References: <mailman.514.1536930803.1699.counselors@lists.onenet.net>
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Here is a video on bullying: Burger King's video regarding bullying

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mnKPEsbTo9s



On Thu, Sep 13, 2018 at 9:25 PM, OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor
Discussion Board <counselors at lists.onenet.net> wrote:

>
>
> Our high school is planning to host multiple forums the month of October
> to address *Social Awareness*.  We are searching for videos,
> age-appropriate curriculum, or ideas that you would recommend on these
> topics:
>
>
>
> Suicide & Depression
>
> Bullying & Cyber-bullying
>
> Sexual Harassment & Sexting
>
> Substance Abuse
>
> Diversity & Inclusion
>
>
>
> As always, appreciate the network of outstanding counselors in Oklahoma
> who continue to support each other.  Thanking you in advance!!
>
>
>
>
>
> Mary Beth Lykins
> Counselor: 10-12, alpha HAN - PA
> Booker T. Washington High School
> Office: 918.925.1019
> FAX: 918.925.1001
> lykinma at tulsaschools.org
>
> send attendance notifications to: BTW_attendance at tulsaschools.org
>
> _______________________________________________
> Counselors mailing list
> Counselors at lists.onenet.net
> https://lists.onenet.net/mailman/listinfo/counselors
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From counselors at lists.onenet.net  Fri Sep 14 15:19:46 2018
From: counselors at lists.onenet.net (OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor Discussion Board)
Date: Fri, 14 Sep 2018 15:19:46 -0500
Subject: [Counselors] Books
In-Reply-To: <mailman.557.1536936408.1699.counselors@lists.onenet.net>
References: <mailman.557.1536936408.1699.counselors@lists.onenet.net>
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"A Smart Girl's Guide to Friendship Troubles" by Patti Kelley Criswell
 ISBN: 978-1-58485-711-2
I rate it 5 stars!!

Linda Beerwinkle
Hydro-Eakly HS/JH
Counselor

On Fri, Sep 14, 2018 at 9:04 AM, OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor
Discussion Board <counselors at lists.onenet.net> wrote:

> Can anyone suggest a few good books for Junior High Girls dealing with
> bullying??
>
> Thank you for your help,
> Jaci Heaton
>
> _______________________________________________
> Counselors mailing list
> Counselors at lists.onenet.net
> https://lists.onenet.net/mailman/listinfo/counselors
>



-- 
*Linda Beerwinkle*
*Counselor*
*Hydro-Eakly Schools*
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From counselors at lists.onenet.net  Fri Sep 14 15:28:34 2018
From: counselors at lists.onenet.net (OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor Discussion Board)
Date: Fri, 14 Sep 2018 15:28:34 -0500
Subject: [Counselors] Books
In-Reply-To: <mailman.651.1536956656.1699.counselors@lists.onenet.net>
References: <mailman.557.1536936408.1699.counselors@lists.onenet.net>
 <mailman.651.1536956656.1699.counselors@lists.onenet.net>
Message-ID: <mailman.667.1536960490.1699.counselors@lists.onenet.net>

Salvaging Sisterhood is great if you're looking to do a group.

On Fri, Sep 14, 2018 at 3:19 PM, OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor
Discussion Board <counselors at lists.onenet.net> wrote:

> "A Smart Girl's Guide to Friendship Troubles" by Patti Kelley Criswell
>  ISBN: 978-1-58485-711-2
> I rate it 5 stars!!
>
> Linda Beerwinkle
> Hydro-Eakly HS/JH
> Counselor
>
> On Fri, Sep 14, 2018 at 9:04 AM, OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor
> Discussion Board <counselors at lists.onenet.net> wrote:
>
>> Can anyone suggest a few good books for Junior High Girls dealing with
>> bullying??
>>
>> Thank you for your help,
>> Jaci Heaton
>>
>> _______________________________________________
>> Counselors mailing list
>> Counselors at lists.onenet.net
>> https://lists.onenet.net/mailman/listinfo/counselors
>>
>
>
>
> --
> *Linda Beerwinkle*
> *Counselor*
> *Hydro-Eakly Schools*
>
>
>
>
> _______________________________________________
> Counselors mailing list
> Counselors at lists.onenet.net
> https://lists.onenet.net/mailman/listinfo/counselors
>



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Counselor
Grove High School

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From counselors at lists.onenet.net  Mon Sep 17 08:31:37 2018
From: counselors at lists.onenet.net (OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor Discussion Board)
Date: Mon, 17 Sep 2018 13:31:37 +0000
Subject: [Counselors] DHS call
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Have any of you ever called DHS with a story a student told you only to find out that the story was false? How did you handle the student after that? Did you apologize to the parents?
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From counselors at lists.onenet.net  Mon Sep 17 09:16:55 2018
From: counselors at lists.onenet.net (OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor Discussion Board)
Date: Mon, 17 Sep 2018 14:16:55 +0000
Subject: [Counselors] FW: DHS call
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I have had that happen more than once.  I still see the students that made the false reports, if they request to see me. I do my best to listen to what they have to say without judgement, but I always emphasize the fact that.,* "You are not going to be in trouble for telling me if someone has hurt you or someone else, as long as you tell the whole truth."*

As for the parents, they may or may not understand, but I do my best to explain that I am REQUIRED BY LAW to report when a child discloses abuse or neglect of any kind to me.  It is not up to me to determine whether or not
the statements are true.  I am not the investigator...merely the MANDATED REPORTER.

It is not our responsibility to judge or investigate the claim. Once the referral has been made I let DHS do their  work. I make no contact with the parent. You don't need to apologize because you were doing your job.


Yes I did.  I discovered later (after the call) that the student was flat out lying.  However, we always have to err on the side of the student, so I felt no remorse on making the call.  I did NOT apologize to the parents.  I
let the matter rest.

Cindy Bryant, NBCT, M.Ed.
Director, Idabel Alternative Academy
Counselor, Idabel Middle School
100 NE Avenue D
Idabel, OK   74745
(580) 286-6558  Phone
(580) 286-8272 FAX

*Some days there won't be a song in your heart.  Sing anyway!*

Sometimes students lie, sometimes they stretch the truth.  You are obligated to report what is reported to you.  You should not feel obligated to apologize to the student and you definitely should not contact the
parent.  DHS referrals are confidential and what may be untrue today may be true tomorrow,

Bob Ehrle, BA, M.Ed
8th Grade Counselor
Sapulpa Junior High School
918-224-6710

I am not sure I have had that exact situation.  However, the student needs just as much help if the story is false.  What would make them tell that story?  What were they trying to gain?  I would probably approach the
parent as the student needs some counseling, and the family probably benefit also. I would not apologize to the parent at all, as you were doing your job!

*Leslie Sexson*
*Bartlesville High School*
*College and Career Counselor*
*918-336-3311 ext. 1001*

From: Counselors [mailto:counselors-bounces at lists.onenet.net] On Behalf Of OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor Discussion Board
Sent: Monday, September 17, 2018 8:32 AM
To: counselors at lists.onenet.net
Subject: [Counselors] DHS call

Have any of you ever called DHS with a story a student told you only to find out that the story was false? How did you handle the student after that? Did you apologize to the parents?
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From counselors at lists.onenet.net  Mon Sep 17 12:16:13 2018
From: counselors at lists.onenet.net (OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor Discussion Board)
Date: Mon, 17 Sep 2018 17:16:13 +0000
Subject: [Counselors] DHS call
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We are required by law to report any type of abuse: physical or mental.  It's not our job to investigate or interview. (If too many people interview the child, it can interfere with legal action later on.) You have to report it! Don't apologize for it! (1. You're following the law. 2. Reports are supposed to be confidential. You don't have to admit to them that you made the report. 3. Don't apologize -What kind of liability could that bring on you?) This happened to me. A girl reported sexual abuse from a step-father. Much later, after DHS intervention, I found out that she had lied about it. The girl never came back to report anything to me, so I didn't have to deal with that occurring again. When I would see her, I just tried to treat her like "normal". I didn't apologize. I did my job. I followed the law.


Yes. I did apologize to the parents, but informed them that it was my duty to report what the student had shared. I cannot determine at that point if it is a lie or truth. That any student that came to me with a plan to harm to self, or others I would be obligated to report.  After that incident, I visited with the student about the importance of truthfulness in my office. That if she wanted help, that I needed full truths only.


I have had that happen more than once.  I still see the students that made the false reports, if they request to see me. I do my best to listen to what they have to say without judgement, but I always emphasize the fact that.,* "You are not going to be in trouble for telling me if someone has hurt you or someone else, as long as you tell the whole truth."*

As for the parents, they may or may not understand, but I do my best to explain that I am REQUIRED BY LAW to report when a child discloses abuse or neglect of any kind to me.  It is not up to me to determine whether or not
the statements are true.  I am not the investigator...merely the MANDATED REPORTER.

It is not our responsibility to judge or investigate the claim. Once the referral has been made I let DHS do their  work. I make no contact with the parent. You don't need to apologize because you were doing your job.


Yes I did.  I discovered later (after the call) that the student was flat out lying.  However, we always have to err on the side of the student, so I felt no remorse on making the call.  I did NOT apologize to the parents.  I
let the matter rest.

Cindy Bryant, NBCT, M.Ed.
Director, Idabel Alternative Academy
Counselor, Idabel Middle School
100 NE Avenue D
Idabel, OK   74745
(580) 286-6558  Phone
(580) 286-8272 FAX

*Some days there won't be a song in your heart.  Sing anyway!*

Sometimes students lie, sometimes they stretch the truth.  You are obligated to report what is reported to you.  You should not feel obligated to apologize to the student and you definitely should not contact the
parent.  DHS referrals are confidential and what may be untrue today may be true tomorrow,

Bob Ehrle, BA, M.Ed
8th Grade Counselor
Sapulpa Junior High School
918-224-6710

I am not sure I have had that exact situation.  However, the student needs just as much help if the story is false.  What would make them tell that story?  What were they trying to gain?  I would probably approach the
parent as the student needs some counseling, and the family probably benefit also. I would not apologize to the parent at all, as you were doing your job!

*Leslie Sexson*
*Bartlesville High School*
*College and Career Counselor*
*918-336-3311 ext. 1001*

From: Counselors [mailto:counselors-bounces at lists.onenet.net] On Behalf Of OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor Discussion Board
Sent: Monday, September 17, 2018 8:32 AM
To: counselors at lists.onenet.net
Subject: [Counselors] DHS call

Have any of you ever called DHS with a story a student told you only to find out that the story was false? How did you handle the student after that? Did you apologize to the parents?
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From counselors at lists.onenet.net  Mon Sep 24 08:28:01 2018
From: counselors at lists.onenet.net (OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor Discussion Board)
Date: Mon, 24 Sep 2018 13:28:01 +0000
Subject: [Counselors] dress code
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Do any schools (who don't wear uniforms) utilize a no-shorts dress code rule year round? If so, I'd like to see your policy, please and thank you!
Paula Leffingwell
Kingfisher High School Counselor
pleffingwell at kingfisher.k12.ok.us<mailto:pleffingwell at kingfisher.k12.ok.us>
405.375.4191
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From counselors at lists.onenet.net  Mon Sep 24 21:15:11 2018
From: counselors at lists.onenet.net (OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor Discussion Board)
Date: Tue, 25 Sep 2018 02:15:11 +0000
Subject: [Counselors] Great place for questions
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If you are not friends of the Facebook Group: High School Counselors' network you are missing out!  There is also one for elementary called Elementary School Counselor Exchange!  They are an awesome resource with around 30,000 members each at you fingertips!
Have a great day!
Sherri Brown, M. ED.
School Counselor
PK-12th
Caney Public School
580-889-6966 then hit 1
www.caneyisd.org<http://www.caneyisd.org>
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From counselors at lists.onenet.net  Tue Sep 25 07:28:04 2018
From: counselors at lists.onenet.net (OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor Discussion Board)
Date: Tue, 25 Sep 2018 12:28:04 +0000
Subject: [Counselors] dress code
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Fairview has a no shorts or sweats policy year round for grades 6-12..

You can go to Fairview Schools website, under the FHS tab there is a posted copy of our handbook. No shorts, and many other dress code rules 🙂! This is for JH and HS. Elementary can wear shorts.

Timberlake allows shorts ($ length rule) first and last nine weeks.

From: Counselors [mailto:counselors-bounces at lists.onenet.net] On Behalf Of OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor Discussion Board
Sent: Monday, September 24, 2018 8:28 AM
To: counselors at lists.onenet.net
Subject: [Counselors] dress code

Do any schools (who don't wear uniforms) utilize a no-shorts dress code rule year round? If so, I'd like to see your policy, please and thank you!
Paula Leffingwell
Kingfisher High School Counselor
pleffingwell at kingfisher.k12.ok.us<mailto:pleffingwell at kingfisher.k12.ok.us>
405.375.4191
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From counselors at lists.onenet.net  Wed Sep 26 11:02:59 2018
From: counselors at lists.onenet.net (OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor Discussion Board)
Date: Wed, 26 Sep 2018 16:02:59 +0000
Subject: [Counselors] Great place for questions
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There is also one called Caught in the Middle for M.S. counselors.



If you are not friends of the Facebook Group: High School Counselors' network you are missing out!  There is also one for elementary called Elementary School Counselor Exchange!  They are an awesome resource with around 30,000 members each at you fingertips!
Have a great day!
Sherri Brown, M. ED.
School Counselor
PK-12th
Caney Public School
580-889-6966 then hit 1
www.caneyisd.org<http://www.caneyisd.org>
okcollegestart<https://www.okcollegestart.org/>*ucango2<http://www.ucango2.org/>*startwithFAFSA<https://www.startwithfafsa.org/>*okcollegeaccess<http://www.okcollegeaccess.org/>
Be Nice! - Kindness Matters!
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