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<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif">Several years ago, I had two students lose their mom one morning as she was running in our park. I bought two cute boxes that I found at Ross. They were fairly cheap. I saw the students on
a weekly basis and each week we would add to their boxes. (I saw each student separately because each needed to grieve in a different way.) We called them Memory boxes. You can have them bring special items from home, pictures, they can make something to
remember him by, letters/cards, etc. This helps the students open up about their feelings.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif">I am not sure where you are located, but Calm Waters in OKC may be a<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif">resource for you. There website is<span style="color:#002060">
<a href="https://www.calmwaters.org/">https://www.calmwaters.org/</a> <o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;color:#002060"><a href="https://www.calmwaters.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/CW-logo-Stacked-e1443536109407.png">https://www.calmwaters.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/CW-logo-Stacked-e1443536109407.png</a>]
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;color:#002060">4334 NW Expressway, Suite 101<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;color:#002060">Oklahoma City, OK 73116<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;color:#002060">Phone: 1-405-841-4800<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;color:#002060">Fax: 1-405-841-4803<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;color:#002060"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;color:#002060">I believe they also have satellite offices. Hope this helps and keep your chin up…. First year is tough<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;color:#002060">Amy Russell (she/her/hers)<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;color:#002060">Counselor<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;color:#002060">Noble High School<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;color:#002060">(405) 872-3441 Ext. 7507<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;color:#002060">Go Bears!<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;color:#002060"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif">A New Leash on Life: A Remedy for Healing After Loss is a one-of-a kind self- help book led by Midas, a feisty golden retriever. Perfect for young readers, Midas is a gentle guide who teaches
valuable lessons about life, death, abandonment and emotional well being. Using snippets from his own life growing up as the runt of the litter, to losing his mother and eventually being adopted, Midas is determined to help any reader who has reached the end
of their own leash. He leads the reader through the stages of grief, and each chapter is filled with worksheets for the reader on how to combat these as he urges the reader to face their feelings full on instead of ignoring them and eventually making things
worse. Midas is not only a dog with unconditional love, deep devotion and true loyalty, he is a dog who has suffered big losses in his life. In this book, he teaches us some of life's most valuable lessons. He will show you how to stop barking up the wrong
tree by giving tools to help you overcome grief and loss.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif">Do you feel like you have reached the end of your leash with nowhere else to go? That is what happened to Midas. He tried to ignore his feelings but that didn't solve anything. In fact, it made
things worse. Pretending that things were alright didn't make them go away. Healing began once he decided to stop cowering away in the comfort of his dog house and take action. You're invited to join him in his story. Together, you will learn how to recover
from losses and pain.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif">Also, there is a website: Whatsyourgrief.com that has a list of 64 books that you might want to explore for further reading material.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif">If I can be of further assistance to you, please let me know.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif">Take care<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif">Patricia McClain, MS, LPC<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif">School Counselor<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif">Lincoln Alternative Academy<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif">Stillwater, Oklahoma 74074<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif">{405} 533-6331<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif">pmcclain@stillwaterschools.com<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;color:#002060">See if their mother will send some pictures to school. Assist them in making a small scrapbook. This is an excellent time for them to share things with you about their father
plus they will have their own book of<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;color:#002060">their father. Another idea is to ask for shirts and assist them in making a pillow (let your FCCLA advisor assist you) from the shirt for each of them.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;color:#00B050">A Rainbow of Hope by Linda Hagler, M. Ed., When Dinosaurs Die A Guide to Understanding Death by Laurie Krasney Brown and Marc Brown and I Miss You A First Look at Death by Pat Thomas
are all good picture books for younger children on grief. It gives a good starting point to begin the conversation and help guide a student through their grief. Linda Hagler's book is actually a set that covers multiple topics and includes ideas and tips on
working with students.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif">I recommend* 35 Ways to Help a Grieving Child* by The Dougy Center, The National Center for Grieving Children & Families and* A Child's View of Grief *by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. These will help
you.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;color:#002060">This summer I had a student lose a younger sibling in a farming accident. I presented him and the family with the book "The Memory Box; A Book about Grief" and an empty box to place
things in that were important. I put in a few things that represented the student that passed (frog stickers, batman stickers, etc. ). I also have a counseling agency that comes to the school for weekly sessions. Prayers for you and the family, because this
is one of the most difficult things as a school counselor I've had to deal with.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><b>From:</b> Counselors <<a href="mailto:counselors-bounces@lists.onenet.net">counselors-bounces@lists.onenet.net</a>>
<b>On Behalf Of </b>OSRHEStudent Prep PK-12 Counselor Discussion Board<br>
<b>Sent:</b> Tuesday, January 21, 2020 3:05 PM<br>
<b>To:</b> <a href="mailto:counselors@lists.onenet.net">counselors@lists.onenet.net</a><br>
<b>Subject:</b> [Counselors] Grief<o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal">If anyone has suggestions of books or activities to do with students dealing with the loss of a parent, I could sure use the ideas. Two sisters (one in 6<sup>th</sup> grade and one in 2<sup>nd
</sup>grade) just lost their dad in a car accident over the weekend. I would appreciate any advice or ideas as I am a new SC and this is my first experience as a SC dealing with this directly. Thank you.<o:p></o:p></p>
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