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Good Morning:<br>
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Today I want to share some signs of unhealthy boundaries in
relationships.<br>
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<b>Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries:<br>
</b>1. Telling all.<br>
2. Talking at an intimate level on the first meeting.<br>
3. Falling in love with a new acquaintance.<br>
4. Falling in love with anyone who reaches out.<br>
5. Being overwhelmed by a person-preoccupied.<br>
6. Acting on the first sexual impulse.<br>
7. Being sexual for partner, not self.<br>
8. Going against personal values or rights to please others.<br>
9. Not noticing when someone invades your boundaries.<br>
10. Not noticing when someone else displays inappropriate boundaries.<br>
11. Accepting food, gifts, touch, sex that you don't' want.<br>
12. Touching a person without asking.<br>
13. Allowing someone to take as much as they can from you.<br>
14. Letting others describe your reality.<br>
15. Letting others define you.<br>
16. Believing others can anticipate your needs.<br>
17. Expecting others to fulfill your needs automatically.<br>
18. Falling apart so someone will take are of you.<br>
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Tomorrow we will look at what is Co-dependency? Co-dependene is a term
that has been widely used in the last 10 years to describe
relationships without clear boundaries. Although no longer in Vogue,
the concept of co-dependency provides a useful framework for examining
how we interact in relationships with others. Our culture portrays
romantic love, in songs, television, and movies, as being a
relationship in which the partners are inseparable, are nothing without
each other, and one in which each partner derives her/his very sense of
self from the other. While portrayed as the ideal, this is actually a
description of a very unhealthy relationship. Read more tomorrow on
this subject.<br>
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For those who may be concerned about the focus being mainly on
unhealthy relationships, there are two sides to the coin and we will
get to what is good about relationships. But before you can enjoy the
fruit you often have to remove the seeds. Until tomorrow.....<br>
<br>
Levenia<br>
918-465-1757<br>
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