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Good Morning:<br>
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Today, I wish to continue to explore co-dependency.<br>
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<b>What is Co-dependency?</b><br>
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My good feelings about who I am stem from being liked by you.<br>
My good feelings about who I am stem from receiving approval from you.<br>
Your struggles affect my serenity. My mental attention focuses on
solving your problems or relieving your pain.<br>
My mental attention is focused on pleasing you.<br>
My mental attention is focused on protecting you.<br>
My mental attention is focused on manipulating you "to do it my way."<br>
My self-esteem is bolstered by solving your problems.<br>
My self-esteem is bolstered by relieving your pain.<br>
My own hobbies and interests are put aside. My time is spent sharing
your interests and hobbies.<br>
Your clothing and personal appearance are dictated by my desires as I
feel you are a reflection of me.<br>
Your behavior is dictated by my desires, as I Feel you are a reflection
of me.<br>
U am not aware of how I feel, I am aware of how you feel. I am not
aware of what I want, I ask you what I want. If I am not aware, I
assume.<br>
The dreams I have for my future are linked to you.<br>
My fear of rejection determines what I say or do.<br>
My fear of your anger determines what I say or do.<br>
I use giving as a way of feeling safe in our relationship.<br>
My social circle diminishes as I involve myself with you.<br>
I put my values aside in order to connect with you.<br>
I value your opinion and way of doing things more than my own.<br>
The quality of my life is in relation to the quality of yours.<br>
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If this describes you, in your relationships, this is an area for
potential growth. Becoming aware of it is the first and most important
step. After awareness comes the opportunity for change. By observing
your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in relationships, you can
identify changes you would like to make. You can start practicing new
behaviors. Friends and family members may resist or sabotage your
attempts to change. It may be helpful to seek counseling to assist you
in making changes in your style of interacting in relationships.<br>
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Here's wishing you a great day and our Mountaineers and Lady
Mountaineers success on the court tonight. Tomorrow we will look at
Healthy Love versus Addictive Love.<br>
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