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Good Afternoon:<br>
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Today I want to compare healthy versus addictive love.<br>
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<b>Healthy Love Versus Addictive Love<br>
</b> From Jed Diamond, "Looking For Love in All the Wrong Places"<br>
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All of us have a healthy impulse to find love, but addictions take us
away from genuine love. A summary of some of the differences between
healthy love and addictive love can help us find the genuine love we
all seek and desire.<br>
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<b>Healthy love </b>develops after we feel secure.<br>
<b>Addictive love </b>tries to create love even though we feel
frightened and insecure.<br>
<b>Healthy love </b>is part of the human fabric. They cannot be
separated.<br>
<b>Addictive love </b>is highly distilled. We think we can separate
"it" from people whether "it" is sex or romantic intrigue.<br>
<b>Healthy love </b>is unique. There is no "ideal lover."<br>
<b>Addictive love </b>is stereotyped. There is always a certain type
we are attracted to.<br>
<b>Healthy love</b> is gentle and comfortable.<br>
<b>Addictive love </b>is tense and combative.<br>
<b>Healthy love </b>encourages us to be ourselves, to be honest from
the beginning with who we are, including our faults.<br>
<b>Addictive love </b>encourages secrets. We want to look good and
put on an attractive mask.<br>
<b>Healthy love </b>is satisfied with the partner we have.<br>
<b>Addictive love </b>is always looking for more or better.<br>
<b>Healthy love </b>is based on the belief that we want to be together.<br>
<b>Addictive love </b>is based on the belief that we HAVE to be
together.<br>
<b>Healthy love </b>teaches that only we can make ourselves happy.<br>
<b>Addictive love </b>expects that other person to make us happy and
demands that we try to make them happy.<br>
<b>Healthy love </b>creates life.<br>
<b>Addictive love </b>creates melodrama.<br>
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Which type of love do you want? Which type do you currently have or
strive to have? Something to think about over the weekend. Have a
safe one.<br>
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Levenia<br>
918-465-1757<br>
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